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One of the Best LGBTQ Memoirs of 2019–The Advocate Magazine

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“At once brutal and beautiful, William Dameron’s memoir unearths layers of secrets and decades of deception in startling, vivid prose. THE LIE could not be more honest.”



–Augusten Burroughs, New York Times bestselling author of Running With Scissors
2019-01-25T19:50:38+00:00
“At once brutal and beautiful, William Dameron’s memoir unearths layers of secrets and decades of deception in startling, vivid prose. THE LIE could not be more honest.” –Augusten Burroughs, New York Times bestselling author of Running With Scissors

“Candid and compassionate, the book celebrates truth and honors the redemptive power of forgiveness and love.”



–Kirkus Reviews

2019-04-27T10:24:41+00:00
“Candid and compassionate, the book celebrates truth and honors the redemptive power of forgiveness and love.” –Kirkus Reviews

“William Dameron’s memoir is an unflinchingly honest and brave piece of work that explores the secrets and lies of his lifetime as a married, closeted southern man. But like all good books, it’s really about so much more. I dare anyone who reads it to not think of their own struggles to admit who we truly are at heart. In a way, THE LIE is a coming of age story that reminds us it’s never too late to become our true selves. “



– Ann Hood, New York Times bestselling author of Comfort: A Journey Through Grief
2019-01-24T20:47:32+00:00
“William Dameron’s memoir is an unflinchingly honest and brave piece of work that explores the secrets and lies of his lifetime as a married, closeted southern man. But like all good books, it’s really about so much more. I dare anyone who reads it to not think of their own struggles to admit who we truly are at heart. In a way, THE LIE is a coming of age story that reminds us it’s never too late to become our true selves. “ – Ann Hood, New York Times bestselling author of Comfort: A Journey Through Grief

“In his first memoir, William Dameron shares a little understood experience in queer life: that of the closeted parent. Writing with uncommon grace and compassion, Dameron does more than describe the burdens of carrying “THE LIE,” he shows us how to live honestly and what it means to be human. This book is a beautiful and necessary read.”



– Alysia Abbott, author of Fairyland: A Memoir of My Father
2019-01-24T20:47:15+00:00
“In his first memoir, William Dameron shares a little understood experience in queer life: that of the closeted parent. Writing with uncommon grace and compassion, Dameron does more than describe the burdens of carrying “THE LIE,” he shows us how to live honestly and what it means to be human. This book is a beautiful and necessary read.” – Alysia Abbott, author of Fairyland: A Memoir of My Father

“Honest, wise, lyrical, funny — if memoirs (or love stories) come better than this one, I haven’t read them.”


– Andrew Tobias, New York Times bestselling author of  the classic memoir The Best Little Boy in the World
2019-01-24T21:05:16+00:00
“Honest, wise, lyrical, funny — if memoirs (or love stories) come better than this one, I haven’t read them.” – Andrew Tobias, New York Times bestselling author of  the classic memoir The Best Little Boy in the World

“What does it mean to live in the closet? We use the term almost unthinkingly, forgetting what a dark and sealed-off place it really is. In The Lie, William Dameron digs deep to explore a life shrouded in shame and secrets. In vivid, clear prose, he bravely and candidly shares his story. I found myself rooting for him to save himself, while also understanding the impact this salvation would have on his wife and daughters. This memoir overflows with insights into the nature of marriage, family, and desire. In the end, it’s a story of how to live responsibly, love truly, and find a place in your heart for forgiveness.”


– K.M. Soehnlein, author of  the Lambda award winning novel The World of Normal Boys
2019-01-24T21:07:33+00:00
“What does it mean to live in the closet? We use the term almost unthinkingly, forgetting what a dark and sealed-off place it really is. In The Lie, William Dameron digs deep to explore a life shrouded in shame and secrets. In vivid, clear prose, he bravely and candidly shares his story. I found myself rooting for him to save himself, while also understanding the impact this salvation would have on his wife and daughters. This memoir overflows with insights into the nature of marriage, family, and desire. In the end, it’s a story of how to live responsibly, love truly, and find a place in your heart for forgiveness.” – K.M. Soehnlein, author of  the Lambda award winning novel The World of Normal Boys

“When his identity is stolen online, William Dameron is confronted with the most obvious metaphor, after all he had, himself, been putting forth a false identity. This is a book about that crucible moment—that lifelong lie—a memoir of a life held back and held in, of his steroid abuse and self-loathing, a memoir about faces, stolen and revealed and about how a gay man who is a husband and father comes to terms with a later life awakening. In achingly beautiful and searingly honest prose, Dameron comes face to face with the fact that he dearly loves aspects of this falsified life. In the wake of this experience, Dameron drills down deep into a life he thought was authentic and true to find layers of self-deceits and cover-ups, in order to let both pain and beauty, eroticism and happiness come rushing in.”


– Elizabeth Cohen, author of The Family on Beartown Road: A Memoir of Love and Courage
2019-01-24T21:08:31+00:00
“When his identity is stolen online, William Dameron is confronted with the most obvious metaphor, after all he had, himself, been putting forth a false identity. This is a book about that crucible moment—that lifelong lie—a memoir of a life held back and held in, of his steroid abuse and self-loathing, a memoir about faces, stolen and revealed and about how a gay man who is a husband and father comes to terms with a later life awakening. In achingly beautiful and searingly honest prose, Dameron comes face to face with the fact that he dearly loves aspects of this falsified life. In the wake of this experience, Dameron drills down deep into a life he thought was authentic and true to find layers of self-deceits and cover-ups, in order to let both pain and beauty, eroticism and happiness come rushing in.” – Elizabeth Cohen, author of The Family on Beartown Road: A Memoir of Love and Courage

“You certainly should be excited about The Lie. This wise and generous memoir answers questions in living an examined life. Dameron has written his own confession as St, Augustine did and has managed to make the telling of one man’s moral struggle include everybody. The writing is clear and true and evocative with a momentum that doesn’t frustrate or disappoint. The people are fully realized. It is a book that will help readers feel less lonely as they stumble toward their light.”



-Gail Godwin, Three time National Book Award Finalist and New York Times Best Selling author of Grief Cottage
2019-01-24T21:11:05+00:00
“You certainly should be excited about The Lie. This wise and generous memoir answers questions in living an examined life. Dameron has written his own confession as St, Augustine did and has managed to make the telling of one man’s moral struggle include everybody. The writing is clear and true and evocative with a momentum that doesn’t frustrate or disappoint. The people are fully realized. It is a book that will help readers feel less lonely as they stumble toward their light.” -Gail Godwin, Three time National Book Award Finalist and New York Times Best Selling author of Grief Cottage

“Candid and compassionate, the book celebrates truth and honors the redemptive power of forgiveness and love. An ultimately uplifting memoir in which the author learns “to love my authentic self, not the image I had created.” —Kirkus Reviews

The True Story of a Lie

Do you know me?, the email began, sparking tremors of fear that turned into a full quake of panic when William Dameron discovered that his selfie had been stolen by strangers. On social networks and dating sites, his image and identity—a forty-year-old straight white male—had been used to hook countless women into believing in lies of love and romance. Was it all an ironic cosmic joke? Almost a decade prior, William himself had been living a lie that had lasted for more than twenty years. His secret? He was a gay man, a fact he hid from his wife and two daughters for almost as long as he had hidden it from himself.

In this emotional and unflinchingly honest memoir of coming out of the closet late in life, owning up to the past, and facing the future, William Dameron confronts steroid addiction, the shame and homophobia of his childhood, the sledgehammer of secrets that slowly tore his marriage apart, and his love for a gay father of three that would once again challenge the boundaries of trust. At the true heart of The Lie is a universal story about turning self-doubt into self-acceptance and about pain, anger, and the long journey of both seeking and giving forgiveness.

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